Discover yourself in the crowd

It’s been months I didn’t think about my career, jobs or something else. The problems of my life kept me so busy to think, think and think about myself. Now m growing out from all that things which felt me cornered from my life. I realized many things, some of which I’m going to compile up here, in this post.

The title may have intrigued you to read more. "Discover Yourself in the crowd" sounds so inspirational and self-helping, isn’t it? Many times, we are lost in external world so badly that we forget who we are inside, and what actually we want, what actually we desire.

Our own choice, needs and requirement are many times according to what others are seeking for. For instance you want to eat a particular flavor of ice-cream, but your girlfriend wants another flavor and you have limited money , what will you do?? Obviously, you will buy her choice of flavor. This simple example reflects our time. We always do what others wants to see, and make so many sacrifices. And many times over, we end up taking certain decisions too, which in the end, affect us the most.

I met one of my friend after a long time, after 2.5 years. We had a bitter argument in 2011 and since then, we were out of touch. we were in a same college and her desire to became a singer and that time she was so serious about her dream. But now She is well settled in IT field??? I asked about your dream. And she told me a longgg storyy that her father want to see her in a professional job etc. I realized that she is living fine but living what her father wanted to. what about her desire?? what about her choice?? Many question arrive in mind. since that i have decided to find a way to find myself Discover myself in the crowd, in crowd of desire of other that is overshadow in my desire. here is some inspiring tips for you....

Create your own life timeline--  Write down all the things that you like, your goals that you feel you have achieved and want to achieve. Write down the event in your life that have shaped or effaced you. These things you list are organically you, not a simple reflection of society.

Spend some time to justifying the past in your timeline. You can look at them as formation blocks and as changing experiences along your timeline without imbuing them with too much emotion.

 When examine negative past experience, focus on what you learned from them. Everyone has these blips in their timeline, but ignoring them won't help you. Instead, recognize that these experiences shaped you.

Confidence on yourself--  Confidence and belief are at the heart of finding yourself. If you don't have a solid sense of self-worth, you'll listen to what others have to say all the time and to be swayed by their insistence on what is appropriate. Learn to believe in yourself and trust your own feelings.

   "Be patient with yourself and confident in your abilities. Everything will come with time."

Stop to attract with bad habit-- Develop your own moral conduct and practice sticking to it. Start by overcoming bad habits. Stop smoking, over-eating, and abusive drinking. These are examples of lapses or habits that will prevent you from functioning at your peak.

  "you can't drive your life forward if you are always gazing through your rear-view mirror!" 

Organize your universe--   You may try to change your identity, your way of absorbing. Resolve that fight 

with that friend. Getting everything else out of the way will clear up the path to "me" time. 

Find out a passion--   When you believe in something, you should do it no matter what anyone else thinks. If you have found something that is worthy of your best efforts, sacrifice, and tears, then you have found the most important pursuit of your life.

Find a adviser--   Seek out someone you trust who has a definite sense of self. How did they do it? 

  - Stress that you know it's your journey, but would love to use their strength as a guide. 

  -  A support system is key to any self-improvement tactic.

  -  Use this mentor as a sounding board, too, for what you come up against. The outlet will surely come in 

      handy.

determine your goal--   Deciding on a career may seem daunting but it is easier when you give yourself a lot of options and time to consider it. Although the idea of a job is fast becoming a thing of the past, the field of work which you choose is important because it will determine where you will spend a good deal of your working life.

"It’s necessary that you ask yourself today, whether you are truly happy or not? If not, then what is it that you want, or what is it that you lack? And how can you be happy? You’ll find all answers within you"

One life.. Live it...